All I Want For Christmas 🎄

So this time of year we speed up and then slow down or get smacked down with a winter bug. This happened to me and my family just after Christmas last year when someone gave us a gift in the form of an intense horrible cold. Christmas is a time of nostalgia with the festivities , then a couple of days later we jump straight into how can I improve myself and purpose next year. Whilst our brain is still in festive fussy mode. Let’s unpack this friends, starting with Christmas day it self, first off not everyone enjoys it for various reasons. Let’s take a walk with perfectionism, from observation and personal experience let’s talk about the big sulk when the roast veg is burnt, meat doesnt come out good, because guess what…..multitasking is not a thing, we just change tasks according to a study by National Institute of Health.

We need to manage expectations and maybe prep early with our work, hitting the shops sooner and meeting up with others when we really need rest. We often neglect that we’re heading into ‘all I want for Christmas’ which leads to perfectionism then onto stress then burnout. We know stress lowers immunity so possibly that cold or virus is little harder to fight with all this stress 🥱😫. Make a decision ‘I don’t want it all for Christmas’…..just good talks over food even if it comes out mediocre, delegate jobs, say no to extra stuff, also is milk of magnesia necessary maybe we just have your normal Sunday roast portions rather than over indulge 😉

Seriously it is not as deep as we assume, what’s most important is relationships, love and rest, kindness, serving others in love. This means it doesn’t have to be perfect. Protect your mental and physical health and relationships. Sometimes it may even mean inviting your neighbour who lives alone as an act of kindness even if things aren’t perfect. Let it go all those extra things that invokes pefectionism.

Now let’s talk about the saying ‘new me, new year’ thing. A idea is to make a conscious decision to start writing our aims and goals for the following year at the mid December it helps us not to feel that horrible feeling of rushing before new years eve and writers block. Leaving it to the last minute means it may become all I want in the new year, not what do I need in the new year to be where I want to be, very different. The first option can cause our aims and goals to come from desperation and failures of the past year. What do I need to happen?, triggers us to look realisically and practically at what we need for growth and attainable achievement.

So maybe less of all I want and more of what do I need this Christmas. Its probably alot less than we first thought. For new year what do you need to happen and what steps do you need to take to get to that point?

Merry Christmas and Peace Friend,

Chanel