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  • How do you digest correction?
    We probably imagine being corrected as a child and frankly what child likes to be told off? As children we often move on quickly after being corrected but can develop resentment and lack self esteem. As adults we develop an offence and completely miss genuine lessons when there is one. If a boss corrects us we tend to internalise it and ruminate for days or months. You may even shudder at the thought of a conversation with someone who corrected you. I certainly did for many years. Growing up being correct constantly made me feel like I wasn’t good enough…More
  • Don’t look back
    You know the saying ‘the past is the past’. It’s not as easy as this is it? One things for certain the past holds us back big time! We’re essentially aiming for increase or growth, whilst looking back at the same time. If we walk and look back we’re going to bump into something and that something is old patterns, pain, discouragement, bad habits and fear. There’s things in the past we can learn from and there’s things in the past we run faraway from because it doesn’t bring out the best in us or those around us. How do…More
  • Gran Of Impact
    Share a story about someone who had a positive impact on your life. The first person who always comes to mind is my beautiful Gran-aunt. It never dawned on me how much of an impact she was until I got older. She may have been in my life for 9 years but those years she showed her great character in many ways. She could pick out a fake person and deal with it in a gentle firm tone or just ignore it, if that’s what it warranted. To understand more about why this stood out well let’s say most others…More
  • Producing Good Fruit đŸ“đŸŠ
    Before we beginning I would like to ask you a questions, your goals and aspirations (personal or professional) how will they impact others and you?. In others words ‘will it bring good fruit at the end of it?’ I would never want a client or anyone for that matter to pursue something that doesn’t seem like it would produce good fruit as an outcome. Many things around us have been created out of self elevation for power purposes, to just get rich and things built on lies and deceit. Things that keep people bound and in consumerism by the marketing…More
  • Queen or Prime Minister?
    What’s a job you would like to do for just one day? This question had my mind wondering. The two by far would be Queen (this is a job one must confirm) and prime minister. The things I would do if I was Queen for a day……. For starters I would move out of the palace and the other big building (the second home can’t remember the name). I would move into a lovely decent size cottage surrounded by a wildflower garden. Half of the palace would be used as affordable housing. Other big building I would turn into a…More
  • Practice Makes Perfect
    One things for sure practice does make us better at things. What I don’t believe though, is humans can be perfect. If we lean on trying to be perfect it sets up unrealistic expectations that can’t be met. Like the perfect partner- This puts pressure on them and us to perform constantly even when we’re having an off day which can deeply affect and sometime damage relationships. The perfect child- Parents no child is perfect and this idea puts undue pressure on our kids to perform for us and not share their struggles for fear of disappointment. The perfect parent-…More
  • Productivity (Finding The Shoe That Fits You?)
    When do you feel most productive? So I will jump right in, I am a morning person so I naturally work better in the morning. It really depends if someone is a morning or evening person. So I use this knowledge to my advantage. Tackling challenging tasks first thing when I am at my best. That alone of course doesn’t fuel me, I need to be hydrated to combat sluggishness. Some days I need a very quiet environment and others I need music or a podcast. Being in tune with where I am that particular day is key, as no…More
  • Your Efforts Won’t Be Wasted
    Do you ever feel like your efforts are wasted? It’s like you’re thirsty and pouring water into a jug being unable to get a drink from it. Well friend you’re not alone, first and foremost. This is all part of a journey that many before you have felt. It doesn’t make it any easier and the critics certainly don’t help. The critics being mostly us with our own thoughts. Nothing is ever wasted it’s a stepping stone to breakthrough. You know I’ve been there more often than I care to remember. But what I’ve seen is it right before a…More
  • Not This Home đŸ 
    Write about a time when you didn’t take action but wish you had. What would you do differently? I was in my early twenties. I was looking for a home for me and my family. A family member came to look at the property with me. They had high hopes for this home but I really didn’t. It was actually close to where they lived at the time. I got a weird vibes from this place. I couldn’t pinpoint the reason at the time. I wasn’t as assertive, as the person I am today. I allowed others at the time…More
  • Unwinding To Unwind
    How do you unwind after a demanding day? It’s not always a natural response to unwind or even where to start?. Each demanding day has its own demand this means it takes a different options for winddown time. If it’s due to a disagreement then time sat in a quiet room alone to gather my thoughts. If it’s due to finances then sitting down with a pen and paper working out a strategy and lots of prayer. If it’s hormonal or where tension has built up in my body a nice hot Bath. If it’s work related then watching something…More
  • When did we stop cheering people on?
    I don’t know about you but I’ve seen some pretty life giving and life changing content on various platforms and even in person events or just a good word from friends. But what I’m seeing in response is different from many years ago. I see people saying they really enjoy the talk, food, atmosphere in the room, encouragement, the support but they didn’t let the main person (who did something helpful or gave a encouraging word) or the staff know how it impacted or added to their day or life in a positive way big or small. That, video on…More
  • Trials and Tribulations
    Which aspects do you think makes a person unique? We are led to think, that the wider world looks at appearances, success’s , personality as what makes someone unique. Yes these things do come into play but actually what has been seen more recently with the increase in social media is people connect more with someone who has gone through trials and tribulations that they have openly shared and overcoming these difficulties. These things create a personal and uniqueness towards the person going through or have been through trials. There’s a saying that people love a sob story, but I…More
  • Content
    Whilst we’re working towards a goal being content in the present moment is equally important. We shouldn’t be living to far (in our heads) into to the future neither the past. Being content is different from comfortable. In fact people are often uncomfortable with the idea of being content. It makes them feel like maybe it’s some kind of defeat in accepting their current situation. Honestly it’s not that, being content allows you to rest in the place you’re currently at and appreciate the things you currently have before your current goal is reached. Learning to be content with a…More
  • The Counterfeit Distraction
    How often do you say “no” to things that would interfere with your goals? Coming from a place of a previous ‘yes person’. I have now learnt the art of saying no. So with that in mind I am a big advocate for saying no to things that interfere with goals. Do you ever notice when you’re working towards goal, a counterfeit distraction will come along to distract and detach you from you’re path? It’s a real thing and real struggle right there. The counterfeit distraction always seems easier, fun and it may even have more benefits on the surface…More
  • Courageous
    What happens to us from birth until now that rocks confidence. My dad left the family home when I was around 6 years old. From there things went left for various reasons. The relationship I thought I had with a dad I adored was no longer there. It was up and down for years after that. Fast forward and I have come to realise losing our confidence makes us lose courage. The mistake I made was putting my confidence in a person, yes it was my parent but never the less making them responsible for my future happiness is dangerous.…More
  • Best Unintentional Compliment I received
    What was the best compliment you’ve received? You’re not putting up with rubbish anymore are you? Some may not call it a compliment but I certainly do. You see many times I was a yes person and allowed people to take the reigns. My voice drowned out and almost on mute. I believed the lie that my opinions don’t matter and who would want to hear what I have to say. Those people made me awful. Another element added to the mix, was being a child raised in the 90s. Parents spoke for you, a lot and to be honest…More
  • How Committed Are You?
    Success is twenty percent skill and eighty percent consistency. Consistency is the foundation for being committed. When we commit to something we make a decision to see it out, until the desired result is reached. But to get the desired result we need to be consistent in the things we do everyday towards it. Consistency comes in many forms but one thing is key, repeating the same tasks towards your end goal over and over again. It requires focus and sacrifice. Sometime it’s doing things you could do without that seems tedious or boring. Actually it’s very necessary to the…More
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    Write a letter to your 100-year-old self. Dear Warrior, Didn’t you go through some serious things but guess what?, a live well lived is not the absence of problems. You made it even when you wanted to quit at times. The scars you wear is a symbol of strength and resilience. The day you made a choice to not compare against anyone but only be better than you were yesterday, was when life truly began to bring peace even in the chaos. At times you risked it and it paid off by success or by being a life lesson to…More
  • Charity and Compassion
    How do you view your work and personal life, do you show compassion and charitable behaviours towards those who are already, or come into your life even when they’re good or challenging? In the UK (where I live), I am noticing a lack of charity and compassion towards others both personally and outwardly. Now this can be for a variety of reasons for instance, in the workplace someone dislikes their job, the customers are known to be demanding, it’s a fast paced environment leaving little time for customer interaction. Whatever it is compassion is being lost in some facilities between…More
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    What are three objects you couldn’t live without? Like most objects, the truth is I can live without them if I had too but I find these object helpful to live with. These add to my life:- Books- are like mentors if you find the right one. And also if it’s a good novel…. well it transports me to places I may never visits in real life because some are impossible like faraway made up places. Craft material- whilst I am at a place where I don’t buy much anymore. I still have a lovely choice of craft stuff from…More
  • Little L
    This is a challenging topic and an ongoing issue. How do we deal with those people who don’t respect our boundaries knowingly or unknowingly. You know them……boundary wall pushers. You make a decision to change your reaction to them to keep you from getting annoyed, but as soon as they come around you they just rub you up the wrong way. In your head you’re like seriously, did they just say that?. Or did they just really do that?…… Just like Jamiroquai spoke about a partners behaviour making him love them with a ‘Little L’. Because when the boundary wall…More
  • Top Gear Magazines
    Are there any activities or hobbies you’ve outgrown or lost interest in over time? During my teens I loved Top Gear magazines. Especially reading the specifications of the cars. I never spoke to any of my friends about it. They were more into girly stuff (as it was called at the time). I felt too ashamed to speak to the boys. I use to get excited each time a new magazine came out. Honestly I can’t pinpoint exactly what the reason for the interest but I know I loved it. As I got older I lost interest. My eldest son…More
  • Bitter Sweet Symphony
    Our comfort can feel good, but not every thing that feels good is good for us right? Those bitter sweet moments, where our comfort creates some kind of safety but it actually stops you from growing . People who succeed in life or introduced change into their life always have stepped outside of their comfort zone. There’s an element of risk to everything kids, marriage, new career, starting a business, moving home, moving to a different country, going travelling and more….. With the presence of risk there is also the other side and this is why we as humans tend…More
  • Shape Of You
    Do you ever wonder who are you really?. The real you without all the online influences, social media, and podcast information? Are you starting to sound like a mixture of your favourite podcasts hosts?. Maybe it’s got to the point, where you have forgotten where you got that great bit of advice from. Because you follow so much people on YouTube or Instagram. Are you using dating advice from YouTube?. Whilst not bad especially if you have had trouble in that particular area, but what happens when you get past the dating stage and the real you come out. Then…More
  • Just A Little Bit More
    Ever wonder why some people seem to have the knack at making things work and well…..why others it doesn’t seem to work out as hoped. Well maybe your thinking there must be something special about them, some magic formula, they must already have the funds, they must have a high IQ?. It’s hardly those things or many other thing we could conjure up in our heads. I talking about the people who are innovative, make radical positive changes in their personal life, lasting growth, give up a habit, grow a company, growth on social media and more. It’s usually takes…More
  • Just the way you are đŸŤ†
    I’m guessing anyone reading this would have possibly occupied their earthy body for least a couple of decades now. Possibly tried to move out of our earthly bodies a few times. Maybe even invited in a couple of swatters and rude guests, that’s another story. But here’s the thing like a house made of brick and motar or grand design type house if you’re really posh. A house can be gutted, fixed up both internally and externally. Some parts can be reused and enhanced. We can improve ourself, please note we’re not too far gone. Saying it’s just the way I…More
  • Born To Be Wild
    We often hear the word normal but what is normal?. Why do we presume some people’s behaviours are normal and condemn people who act out of side of these characteristics (that’s not considered the norm). I am for one, not normal and nor do I wish to be. What equates to normal?, does anyone really know?. Because from what I’ve witnessed and maybe you too, people who lived a life well (happy or successful in various areas) have very unique characteristic and against what seems normal. In fact they can be pretty wild in their thinking. Innovators are certainly wild,…More
  • Picking Up The Pieces
    So friends were at the beginning of a New Year. Last year it felt like some of us have walked through the fire, some may have came out pretty unscathed and rest bit battered bruised. I don’t know personally what you have dealt with but the fact is your reading this so your Alive and your here. Where there’s life there’s hope, you made it even if your feelings differ. I like to think of all our issues as pieces of a puzzle and as we go into a new year we need to pick up those pieces and put…More
  • Get Lucky
    Now, I no longer believe in luck. In fact, for a long time now. It can lead people into a false sense that things fall into their lap by chance, and if it doesn’t, then you certainty have something wrong with you accord to the world standards. There was no contract signed as we entered this world, promising us a good or challenging life. Not even a mediocre or rich life. So where did the idea of luck come from some superstious person probably I feel like banging my head against a wall every time a certain family member says,…More
  • All I Want For Christmas đŸŽ„
    So this time of year we speed up and then slow down or get smacked down with a winter bug. This happened to me and my family just after Christmas last year when someone gave us a gift in the form of an intense horrible cold. Christmas is a time of nostalgia with the festivities , then a couple of days later we jump straight into how can I improve myself and purpose next year. Whilst our brain is still in festive fussy mode. Let’s unpack this friends, starting with Christmas day it self, first off not everyone enjoys it…More
  • Overload
    Fast approaching is Christmas with a big drizzle of increased consumerism. It feels alittle uneasy especially as we find it hard to focus, with all stuff we have already and our short attention spans,  followed by all the excess dopamine hits (instant gratifaction). More stuff, more overwhelm and a feeling of being overloaded. If you’re a freelancer like me you’re maybe thinking when’s the best time to stop and then begin working again, during and after the holiday’s. Whatever your circumstance don’t let the presents and food during christmas overwhelm you. I decided I would focus on the true meaning…More
  • This little brain 🧠  of mine, I need to let it shine
    *Little Brain – how I describe our overwhelmed brain certainly not a scientific terminology. In a time where our brains are possibly less cooperative due to lack of nutrients in food, needing constant stimulation, digital devices, social media, trauma from the distressing things we see or hear daily. Could we be suffering from little brain where it takes a lot more effort to conjure up creativity and ideas. Even choosing what to watch on Netflix is quite a task only to finally find something and fall asleep. Scrolling feels like the straw that breaks the camel back. The majority of…More

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