Shape Of You

Do you ever wonder who are you really?.

The real you without all the online influences, social media, and podcast information?

Are you starting to sound like a mixture of your favourite podcasts hosts?.

Maybe it’s got to the point, where you have forgotten where you got that great bit of advice from. Because you follow so much people on YouTube or Instagram.

Are you using dating advice from YouTube?. Whilst not bad especially if you have had trouble in that particular area, but what happens when you get past the dating stage and the real you come out. Then it will leave your partner wondering who they are actually with?. Even if you make a great partner unfortunately that person signed up for the youtube influencers type of dating partner.

We are in times where people are quite frankly crying out for authenticity. We are bogged down by duplicates of most things and its all well….. similar. Also a little bit scary. We’re at risk at not even knowing ourself, swaying so far from reality.

I don’t know about you but it’s exhausting and overstimulating.  

A time of simplicity is in order, digital simplicity. How many screen shots of quotes are on your camera roll?. For me too many I’ve even forgot they were there.

But….let’s reclaim our authenticity

1. Go through camera roll clear what’s not need or forgotten.
2. Go through YouTube, Instagram, Facebook, TikTok and unfollow people and pages that are just clouding the space in your brain and feed. KEEP THE FEW YOU ENJOY AS INSPIRATION.
3. Even books if you have to many similar genres clamouring for your attention.
4. Have a pen and paper handy. (Now some of you will find this hard). But if you have forgotten what authentic is for you try sit somewhere quiet and try to not focus on anything. Then when your relaxed think about your personality, what motivates you, what makes you happy (activities both alone and with others). Big one, if you could do anything what would it be?.
5. What are you like when your at home?. That’s often where the real authentic us comes out (if we’re allowed to feel safe with those we live with). If not, you can think back to a place or time where you could be yourself.

So from there you may identify who is the authentic you hopefully.

Whilst lots of people can inspire us they can also leave us feeling confused about who are and thinking we’re doing something wrong. When in actual fact we maybe we’re alright.

There is people out there needing you to show up as your authentic self with all the quirks and bandages because it’s your story that might make them resonate and love you all the more.

Chanel x