Not This Home 🏠

Write about a time when you didn’t take action but wish you had. What would you do differently?

I was in my early twenties. I was looking for a home for me and my family. A family member came to look at the property with me.

They had high hopes for this home but I really didn’t. It was actually close to where they lived at the time. I got a weird vibes from this place. I couldn’t pinpoint the reason at the time.

I wasn’t as assertive, as the person I am today. I allowed others at the time to sway my decisions.

So as you guessed I took the property I was worn down from the person I seen as a authority figure. From the start things unraveled various different issues connected with the property.

Spending years being frustrated by allowing others choices to impact my decision making.

The day came when I realised I am the problem in this case, because I needed boundaries and to take responsibly over the situation that would greatly impact us (the people who live in that space).

Doing it differently would look like, me being clear and stating that the final decision rests with me.

As we grow up we still allow the authority of other people close to us to govern our lives. This could affect our everyday decisions, our true authentic self, our calling and create co-dependency.

Are your decisions based off other’s unwelcome opinion. Where have you allowed others to take complete reigns?.

Some people deal with challenging people close to them who like to assert themselves into each and every situation through various means and ways.

Respectful ways of dealing with this and trying to protect relationships with words and actions-

A. Thank you for your input but I already know what I’ve decided.

B. Just listen and make the final decision you need to make.

C. Keep quiet about any decisions you need to make without interruption. Others can only get involved with what they know. (It won’t work with having kids or weddings sorry)

These ways can keep the peace to a certain degree.

Take away-

If we keep allowing others to make decisions for us we will miss out on great opportunities and the fullness of outlives because we’re be busy living it through someone else.

Chanel x