Practice Makes Perfect

One things for sure practice does make us better at things. What I don’t believe though, is humans can be perfect. If we lean on trying to be perfect it sets up unrealistic expectations that can’t be met.

Like the perfect partner-

This puts pressure on them and us to perform constantly even when we’re having an off day which can deeply affect and sometime damage relationships.

The perfect child-

Parents no child is perfect and this idea puts undue pressure on our kids to perform for us and not share their struggles for fear of disappointment.

The perfect parent-

I gave up striving for this a while ago, feeling like was spending more time trying to fix what I believed I messed up. Instead I opted for an imperfect parent relationship. If I am wrong I apologise and move on. They’re aware of my struggles and vulnerabilities (once they reach ages they can understand). It makes you human and shows adults do mess up and have insecurities too.

The perfect friend-

Don’t say what you think they want to hear tell the truth in a kind way and when they ask for your opinion. We worry so much about how it will be recieve but truthfully if it’s said in love and care it’s coming from a good place. .

The perfect business owner-

We can’t make our services and products perfect. This one hurts it really does especially when you pour so much into it. We can only do things to our absolute best and with love for what we do. The rest we have to just trust and have faith it will work out well. Which it will eventually…….

The perfect worker-

If you’re competing against others in the workplace I would go as far to say, it’s about working to the best of your ability as an individual. Those in charge will hopefully notice your works but if you feel your constantly over looked, maybe it’s time to search for an alternative and dust your feet off and go where your good efforts will be appreciated. (But secure somewhere else first unless you’re in a position finaically to step away right away.)

The perfect body-

Keeping fit by training our bodies starts with the inside. Getting healthy from the inside out. I’ve tried various things cutting down meat, being a vegan and only eating organic foods but I became so hyper focused about it and that wasn’t healthy for me personally. So now I am just food aware and eat with the intention of fuelling my body with what it needs to help me show up well from the inside out. I eat meat but I am moderate about it and organic foods at times but again, moderate. You may have a completely different diet because it’s not about any of us striving for a perfect diet it’s about our personal bodies and what is needed in a balanced way. As I practiced what worked best for my body I learned much along the way.

When we practice something, we are trying to improve our knowledge of how to carry out that task to the best of OUR ability. Not someone else’s.

I’ve done classes over the years and remembered when I did Art and Design A Levels. During lessons looking over at others work because honestly I wasn’t the best drawer or painter not like the other students. I spent most of my time in comparison mode and it wasn’t pretty in my mind. The way I spoke to myself. If I could tell my 17 year old self then that nothing is perfect and your striving is going to get you nowhere fast, would I of listened maybe not. But if I had that knowledge naturally ingrained then I would have enjoyed the classed more. It didn’t help that the tutor said I am not the strongest drawer in the class as if I didn’t already know that. Did I mention I lived on the same street as my tutor so each time I saw her I did the awkward ‘hi’ smile.

Neither the less I got my A Levels and passed. I’ve became more creative over the years and love art.

You see I didn’t have to be perfect and I got my qualification anyway. I spent time just trying and that’s practicing in motion.

When you practice you open yourself up to possibilities of being better at something. That feeling of achievement when you know hard work and tears went into it does hit differently than things easily gained.

With practice you learn how to not do something which is just as important. We have the recent generations striving for perfection my heart goes out to them. That’s why hammering home that practice is important element of life. Don’t just run off to the next thing.

Practice doesn’t make perfect. Practice makes people. People who are resilient, learners, overcomes, achievers. It humbles us and gives us the tools to help others in a similar situation.

Who knows what possibilities might come out of it. I learned to crochet recently and whilst I felt very happy with my achievement, figuring it out but the best was the calm time it gave me.

Practice doesn’t make perfect. Practice makes people learn.

Chanel x