Don’t look back

You know the saying ‘the past is the past’. It’s not as easy as this is it?

One things for certain the past holds us back big time!

We’re essentially aiming for increase or growth, whilst looking back at the same time.

If we walk and look back we’re going to bump into something and that something is old patterns, pain, discouragement, bad habits and fear.

There’s things in the past we can learn from and there’s things in the past we run faraway from because it doesn’t bring out the best in us or those around us.

How do we leave the past behind?

Well you have a number of options-

• Speak to a trusted friend

• Coach

• Therapist/counsellor

• Walk yourself through it and make a decision to quit living in the past.

The last isn’t easy but it depends on what happened in your past that is affecting your future.

People use many self help books, I did but it didn’t always work because I didn’t apply what I learnt. Sometimes I didn’t know how too, due to the complexities of what was written and how it fits my situation.

Everyone has a past but it’s not always fond memory for some. Working through these challenges helps release what you’re carrying.

Imagine wearing a backpack with 20 small rocks and walking for miles. Then picking up more on the way. Eventually you won’t be able to carry it and you can’t ask anyone else because it’s not their backpack. This is the same with your past.

You will come up against other challenges (that’s the hard part of life), but if you’re already carrying other rocks it’s going to feel overwhelming when you add more.

I should know I did this many times and what happened burnout……….

I was signed off from work for 6 weeks it was horrible. It was like Niagara Falls coming from my eyes. I wanted to stop crying but I couldn’t. A pattern of insomnia began for many years following.

Just like the book the ‘body keeps scores’ believe it really does. Another interesting fact, your brain can’t tell if you’re actually going through something for real or if it’s just a thought. Psychologists have discovered this!.

But you can make your first step to freedom today, you know longer have to look backwards but to press on towards the future.

Decide what help you will need and take those first steps.

Chanel x