Use Of Our Words

The words we use and the ones we don’t (even silence speaks volumes).

Focusing on the spoken words, whether it be via mouth or text has the ability to encourage or discourage someone.

A seed (word) planted in the right conditions will grow.

It depends on whether you want to encourage or discourage?. It will either grow like a beautiful flower that keeps returning each year or it will grow thorns that will stick and prick the person.

A harsh word can cause a person to develop anger but a word spoken in love and encouragement can develop into hope and growth. 

I’ve been both the giver of an encouraging word and a receiver. I can tell you it was like life to a weary heart and needed in that moment in time.

I’ve also been the giver and receiver of a harsh word that hurt. It’s a horrible feeling knowing you have discouraged someone. You see I suffered with clinical OCD and anxiety it was crushing. Whilst not an excuse I would responded to stressful situations with negative response and projecting fear of the future. I am now on the other side of that thankfully.

You see I speak words that are life giving, a pep talk to myself if you like.

I was very negative to be around during this time always fearful and it began with my family speaking a lot about sickness and very pessimistic. They were problem watchers.

Let me tell you friends if this was your experience with family growing up. It’s not normal and we should not normalise this kind of living. As the saying goes misery loves company.

I took a journey of release and discovery shaking of the entanglement of negative words spoken over me and that includes words I’ve spoken over my self. I ‘choose’ to walk a different path, a lighter path. The word ‘choose’ is key here because it’s a decision, a change of heart and mind. Then we walk in it.

I try to be conscious of what I say and don’t say to others. I do get it wrong sometimes but what I don’t try to do is beat myself up about it, at least not for too long anyway. I know I don’t do it intentionally and I apologise. If we allow ourselves to jump on that train then it’s a downward spiral from there. Down there is where negative words live. We don’t want to go down there. It’s like a dark scary basement.

So the first start is making a decision to become conscious of your words to others and to yourself. The key also is to be aware of how others speak to you too. If they can’t be kind it’s time to set boundaries. (If it’s an abusive relationships seek help safety).

Second is to have pauses when you speak to hear what you’re going to say in your head before you respond out loud . This is something I am actively working on. We won’t get this right all of time though.

It’s something to build on and the thing is not to get to frustrated if you make a mistake or it becomes counterproductive.

Go out into the world and plant some good seed. I heard it also can come back to you tenfold.

Chanel x